Sounds like you might just want to look into a more curated home server.
I maintain my own lemmy server, so I get to select which communities show up in my feed and which don’t, and since it’s my own server, I can filter and curate my feed for myself (which so far has not been much work at all).
I can confidently say that I haven’t had any racist or other undesirable memes flooding my home page.
What a coincidence, I just finished writing the first revision of my own bot for this. It’s rough, but it works for me so far :)
I’ll never federate my instance at least
That’s funny, I just emailed someone on gmail from my personal server.
This just isn’t true. It’s admittedly a bit of setup to get DKIM, SPF, and all the other fun stuff required to send email properly, but Google will accpet mail from my server with no issue.
I love my mono laser printer. It’s an older Canon I got from a retired lawyer, so it has probably printed a million pages already for all I know. Haven’t had to futz with it since I popped in a new toner cartridge that was ~$40. If I need to print color, I go to the local copy store, but that’s rare anyways. Been recommending the same for all my friends and family.