Compulsive comment editor. All in good faith.

#Sorry not sorry

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Cake day: August 13th, 2023

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  • It’s the sexist comments, boomer humor, male-centric views, the mansplaining, the chauvinism, the micro-aggressions, lack of empathy from a lack of perspective, the oversimplification without nuance, etc. All that generally makes women uncomfortable and sometimes it’s a bit much. Sometimes you want to forget those exist and focus on what matters to you with like-minded people.

    It’s the same for us gay folks. I know I can’t just bring up whatever gay topic in a straight group where not everyone can relate, offer their first hand experience, or might find it weird because it’s not part of their lives.

    Trying to concentrate similar people to discuss common topics is, at the very worst, a constructive division.







  • I didn’t ignore it, I just interpret it differently as in, “I don’t need to do this unusual stuff everyone does without a calculator”. Calling something weird doesn’t necessarily mean it’s off-color or that it’s a trait the other person has. In my use case, weird just means unexpected or counterintuitive, and maybe complex enough that I can’t bother with describing it properly. I know because I use it that way too. Weird doesn’t have to mean a third eye on your face every time. I mean, doing the weird math thing is taught in school as a strategy.

    I do want to mention that it’s not the first time I see a visceral reaction to a passing comment. I usually see this from marginalized groups, and I can assure you, both Kolanki and I are part of those too. And knowing his long comment history, I sincerely doubt he meant anyone is weird as shit.

    And even if it’s a bit thought-policey, how does that warrant calling someone a fascist and going off on them like that? That’s also a bit weird (as in odd).